“i just want to reach a place where money lets me be irresponsible with my hobbies.” ahhh this is so relatable, and i always think about this. i have plans, i want to be random and unpredictable, i just want to explore, continue with painting, write and not worry about breaking codes lol. and no you didn’t make a wrong decision.
heartbreaks are important, you learn to be alone, share and get used to letting go. random but l i had this question like why do i write when i’m sad and after a heartbreak i read this richard siken quote “the vocabulary of joy is grunts and moan and the vocabulary of loss is dictionary, if you can point to it you don’t need a word for it. you only need a word for it when its no longer there”
thank you for saying that, starting to believe it never was a bad decision. ah that reminds me of that irfan khan dialogue “i suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go”
omg shutup, I’ve always wondered that, infact i actively think about answers around that whenever i write something. like a big thank you for telling me that quote. will proceed to think about it forever and it goes in my wall or book or something.
i hope you can be random and irresponsible with your plans in the near future.
I relate to the entire article so much. Especially the heartbreak part. Though for me, there are weak moments when the "why me" questions haunt me and I actually have no answer for it. But as you said, each heartbreak has only brought me closer to myself and I know no matter what, I'll always be there for myself since the only constant factor through all that has been me and because of that, I'm no longer worried that I might choose anyone over myself.
i don’t think there ever will be answers even when you’re presented the answers you’d not understand them cause to understand would be to say you’d do the same in the situation and i doubt that’s true. once you tell yourself you will get over anything you will, you just have to accept that there will be lots of crying nights and feeling absolutely worthless but that’s the thing about feelings they are never constant but like you said your presence in your life is the constant. Thank you!
I don’t know how i feel about this being so relatable. With the not knowing what to do when you were hugged to knowing my job isn’t my passion but I am ok with that fact cause I have other things and I like the feeling of being busy but not to avoid thinking about something to getting closer to yourself through each heartbreak but not the love one. I guess this is the point of reading after all. To come across a line while reading and feel a wave of finally being understood. Thank you for writing!
Aaaaa ikr, i read so many lines and like damn i feel the exact same way. You’re always so sweet to let me know you liked what i wrote, thank you for reading it :)
i also like how the term heartbreak isn't just used as a direct relation to anything romantic but also a heartbeat of the expectations to oneself and the situation one is in
isn't it so funny, the hobbies you mentioned are the things which put you out there the most and give people a chance to delve into your perspective and how you look at things yet one of your dreams is to be able to disappear to thrive
that's what caught me the most, to be understood yet not wanting to be seen
i hope you are able to stack more post it notes on that wall, just borrow from me if you run out of them
and I'm glad I'm a small part of the journey of your hobbies
glad you interpreted it that way, yes heartbreaks are beyond just romantic feelings. i was afraid me using that word may move people away from that fact but i’m glad it’s understood. yes ikr, i think and believe that once i have tasted being seen and understood in whatever capacity, i would want to step into the euphoric feeling of disappearing. also makes me think of this question-
do we subconsciously believe that doing things that make people see us and understand us a societal duty?
thank you so much, and you can borrow mine anytime too :)
second, the article felt very honest and very relatable
all the instances where you compared your aspirations to the reality of where you are in, it didn't seem like complaining or anything but rather a silent acknowledgement yet a hint of a possibility of something where your expectations are fulfilled
having the need to be actually good at your hobbies is so real for me, even though they're something I have a passion for, there's an underlying expectation to perform
keeping myself busy makes me feel relevant because I associate value to output and not potential
shut up high praise, love that i am one of them thank youu. sure tell me that when they are in your face. oh that part is so true, i keep wondering why i liked being busy even though i know why i like it and just avoid having to put a figure there but yes being busy makes me feel relevant as well. i remember telling my friend the other day that being busy makes me feel validated and despite the negative views on validation and needing attention, they are quite human.
Thank you so much, appreciate you writing this and letting me know. I will just go ahead and tell you I love this comment, your way with words is very precise. Especially the last line.
“i just want to reach a place where money lets me be irresponsible with my hobbies.” ahhh this is so relatable, and i always think about this. i have plans, i want to be random and unpredictable, i just want to explore, continue with painting, write and not worry about breaking codes lol. and no you didn’t make a wrong decision.
heartbreaks are important, you learn to be alone, share and get used to letting go. random but l i had this question like why do i write when i’m sad and after a heartbreak i read this richard siken quote “the vocabulary of joy is grunts and moan and the vocabulary of loss is dictionary, if you can point to it you don’t need a word for it. you only need a word for it when its no longer there”
thank you for saying that, starting to believe it never was a bad decision. ah that reminds me of that irfan khan dialogue “i suppose in the end the whole of life becomes an act of letting go”
omg shutup, I’ve always wondered that, infact i actively think about answers around that whenever i write something. like a big thank you for telling me that quote. will proceed to think about it forever and it goes in my wall or book or something.
i hope you can be random and irresponsible with your plans in the near future.
i love your writing. it feels like evening sunshine in spring.
i also love that you only used small case throughout, it's comforting to read, somehow feels like home
that’s such a fresh compliment, im so glad you like it, thank you!
I relate to the entire article so much. Especially the heartbreak part. Though for me, there are weak moments when the "why me" questions haunt me and I actually have no answer for it. But as you said, each heartbreak has only brought me closer to myself and I know no matter what, I'll always be there for myself since the only constant factor through all that has been me and because of that, I'm no longer worried that I might choose anyone over myself.
Love your article Harshita!
i don’t think there ever will be answers even when you’re presented the answers you’d not understand them cause to understand would be to say you’d do the same in the situation and i doubt that’s true. once you tell yourself you will get over anything you will, you just have to accept that there will be lots of crying nights and feeling absolutely worthless but that’s the thing about feelings they are never constant but like you said your presence in your life is the constant. Thank you!
yeahh. makes sense ✨
I don’t know how i feel about this being so relatable. With the not knowing what to do when you were hugged to knowing my job isn’t my passion but I am ok with that fact cause I have other things and I like the feeling of being busy but not to avoid thinking about something to getting closer to yourself through each heartbreak but not the love one. I guess this is the point of reading after all. To come across a line while reading and feel a wave of finally being understood. Thank you for writing!
Aaaaa ikr, i read so many lines and like damn i feel the exact same way. You’re always so sweet to let me know you liked what i wrote, thank you for reading it :)
You write so well! I can’t help but comment!
i also like how the term heartbreak isn't just used as a direct relation to anything romantic but also a heartbeat of the expectations to oneself and the situation one is in
isn't it so funny, the hobbies you mentioned are the things which put you out there the most and give people a chance to delve into your perspective and how you look at things yet one of your dreams is to be able to disappear to thrive
that's what caught me the most, to be understood yet not wanting to be seen
i hope you are able to stack more post it notes on that wall, just borrow from me if you run out of them
and I'm glad I'm a small part of the journey of your hobbies
much love and admiration for your work
glad you interpreted it that way, yes heartbreaks are beyond just romantic feelings. i was afraid me using that word may move people away from that fact but i’m glad it’s understood. yes ikr, i think and believe that once i have tasted being seen and understood in whatever capacity, i would want to step into the euphoric feeling of disappearing. also makes me think of this question-
do we subconsciously believe that doing things that make people see us and understand us a societal duty?
thank you so much, and you can borrow mine anytime too :)
another article by one of my fav writers here lol
first of all, frogs are fun to hold pls
second, the article felt very honest and very relatable
all the instances where you compared your aspirations to the reality of where you are in, it didn't seem like complaining or anything but rather a silent acknowledgement yet a hint of a possibility of something where your expectations are fulfilled
having the need to be actually good at your hobbies is so real for me, even though they're something I have a passion for, there's an underlying expectation to perform
keeping myself busy makes me feel relevant because I associate value to output and not potential
your blunt honesty on your job, hit too real
shut up high praise, love that i am one of them thank youu. sure tell me that when they are in your face. oh that part is so true, i keep wondering why i liked being busy even though i know why i like it and just avoid having to put a figure there but yes being busy makes me feel relevant as well. i remember telling my friend the other day that being busy makes me feel validated and despite the negative views on validation and needing attention, they are quite human.
sounds like the movie Rockstar, where you make a death wish and it comes true
Thank you so much, appreciate you writing this and letting me know. I will just go ahead and tell you I love this comment, your way with words is very precise. Especially the last line.
Dual lives are exhausting but also has a thrill, thank you :) hope you can lean more towards your passions as you go